You get what you focus on and attract to you the things that you give a great deal of thought to. Ask yourself what have you been getting lately? If we are stuck in worry, fear, loss and or lack than that is what shows up in our lives. And if you keep rehashing a past hurt or loss then that too keeps you in that energy and continues to create the same in your present life. While it is important to think about a situation or event that caused you pain so you can learn from the situation we don’t need to stay stuck in it. In order to make the best of it and move on we need to honor ourselves and what we experienced within that situation. Grieve, accept, learn, forgive yourself and others involved, regroup and move forward with your life. When we keep living in the past , complaining or rehashing a misfortune it only builds walls around you to block your good.
Our positive and negative thoughts also play out in our dreams. One of the best ways that you can guage where you are in your life subconsciously is through your dreams. If during your waking hours you “put on a happy face” in the midst of not so happy times, then your dreams could reflect that you are not being true to yourself by various dark and dreary dreams. Perhaps you dream of a mask or make-up or other disguises that in dreams represent you are hiding your true self. In addition, when you wake up from a dream the most important clue to your true emotional and subconscious state is the feeling you have immediately when you wake up which is usually a continuation of emotions in your dream, what you are truly feeling. I have had what I considered really good days where I felt fine, everything went well during the day but at night my dreams were dark and filled with frustration. This means that there are deeper beliefs and or thought patterns that are driving me unconsciously that I need to change in order to get what I want out of my life. On the flip side, when we are experiencing deep sorrow or grief we may have light dreams, happier dreams which is our inner light and beingness reflecting that it is there and it will see us through these dark times. I remember having some of my most beautiful and comforting dreams during one of my darkest periods after my boyfriend had passed away.
Have you awakened from a dream where you just felt lousy? Maybe it was a sad dream filled with frustration or angry and you then all day long you felt out of sorts and just couldn’t get on track into your groove. Whenever this happens try to pivot that negative emotion to a more positive emotion before getting out of bed. To pivot is to think of something that is just slightly better then that thought will bring another thought at that same level and then another and so on until you are in a positive emotional energy level. Here is an example: You wake up from a dream and you are in a pissy mood and if you get out of bed with that “attitude” believe me you will keep attracting more pissy experiences to yourself on and on all day. You stub your toe, trip on something on the way to the bathroom, then you spill your coffee or tea on you, then the traffic is backed up and you get every red light and it goes on and on. However, IF you would instead pivot from that pissy mood to a more positive thought before getting out of bed i.e. “Boy am I glad that was just a dream and I am awake now and can choose my mood”, “hey it is sunny outside, oh I am so happy spring is here I am looking so forward to being off this weekend where I can …….” You see once you start on one slight improvement it brings another at that level and so on. Then you can get out of bed and go about your day bringing more and more good experiences to you. It doesn’t matter what the thought is specifically what you are looking for is the emotional energy to raise your vibration to a level of positive attraction.
At the end of the day, when you go to sleep, end it on a positive thought level that you really feel within you. Saying a prayer, forgive anyone including yourself from any missteps earlier in the day and be filled with gratitude. Keeping our energy level and thoughts raised to the level of goodness to ensure positive dreams and good life experiences.
Many Blessings and Sweet Dreams.
Cheri
I really like the thoughts you closed with, especially making forgiveness of yourself one of the last orders of the day. How many nights have I fallen asleep with regrets still swirling in my mind. Say a prayer, and forgive everyone, including yourself. How much better a world we would have if we all took your advice.