Are you being bothered by someone or some situation that is causing you to hook into negativity? Being involved with people and situations where we are not experiencing peace, harmony and happiness is a good sign that we have again created a situation that is less than what we are capable of creating. Take note and responsibility and realize that since you created/attracted that to you either consciously or subconsciously through your OWN thoughts and feelings you can change recreate to a better situation. When you first resolve your own frustrations then life situations are more easily solved. Start with your feelings and thoughts about others and improve/change to better, congenial thoughts and the people in your world either start responding more haromoniously or they will move out of your life completely. They won’t be attracted to you anymore. Remember whatever and whoever you fight and criticize and resist stays attached to us through these negative emotions. As my grandmother always says “just bless them honey and move on!” and it works because I have tried it and still use it whenever I get that person or situation in my life for my lesson of “bless and release”!
Although Thanksgiving is a week past, I thought a gentle reminder that the gratitude and thankfullness towards and about everything in our lives stay in the front of our daily practices. This is no new thought but sometimes even I get caught up in the drama of daily life and let it suck me into a moment or two of whinning or complaining and thinking negative thoughts. I know it happens to you too! Instead of being hard on yourself for falling off the gratitude wagon just pull back, take a moment, say a prayer and be thankful for whatever is happening right then.
I can hear you saying now “Oh sure be thankful that I just got a speeding ticket, or my boss, husband, wife whoever just lit into me or is being a pain..” and I say” Yes. Be thankful for that.” Why? Because it is easy to be thankful for things, people, situations that are good but being thankful for not so good things can transform us.
Here is an example: A woman who was very unhappy at her job and with her life in general came to me for a coaching session. At our first meeting she complained about injustices done against her, her bad boss, her crappy pay etc. And while I did listen momentarily, I told her that I can coach you on getting out of this situation but first I would like for you to be thankful for all those ”things” you just told me about.
The look on her face was priceless!! LOL and hen she said “ What? Are you kidding?” ” No, I am not kidding” I said. I explained further; Be thankful that all this is happening because YOU are creating an experience to give your self permissioin to move on in life by creating negativity. At this point, two things happened:
1.) She realized and accepted that she is the only creator in her world and that she can re-create it
2.) She ”got” that by focusing on the negative she kept getting more of it.
Next I asked her what does she want? Get clear on what you want, be thankful for what you have created because good or bad the truth is you are not a victim you are the creator of your world and you can re-create it, again and again.
We worked together for the next 12 weeks, I helped her get clear on what she wanted, coached her step by step towards that goal, and in the end we celebrated together her new job with great pay and good people to work for and with.
What are you thankful for today?
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I think one of the greatest services we can do for others
is to do for ourselves and be an inspiration to our fellow humans by creating
and living our own dreams. I confess that often when I want to do something new or a big change, I research and research how someone else did it. Then, after reading about 10 different other
people who did the thing that I want to do; I think to myself “Oh I can’t do that I am not
qualified or educated in that field or experienced. Who am I to do “that” thing that I want to do?” And what happens next? I have talked myself right out of my brilliant idea that I want to do because of looking at “everyone” else on how to do it or express it.
At this point, I have come to know that two things are going on
1.) FEAR of change, going out of my comfort zone etc
2.) I am leaning on others experiences to do something that was put on my heart to do.
I am leaning on others by reading about them, checking out their websites, books, their “about me” page etc. Then I compare me and my experience, education, etc. and then sometimes I call a few people and ask them about this and that and how I should proceed. After all that I decide” oh I can’t do that. I am not good enough. Why did I even think that?” And I have defeated my own dream by leaning on others and not my own inner I AM, God and Universal Knowledge and inspiration. How many times have you
This morning I was meditating on this particular big idea and how to go about it and I opened one of my favorite books, “Creative Mind and Success” by Earnest Holmes. I opened to this page: Don’t Be A Leaner.
Hmm, I am not a leaner I said to myself. I mean I make my own way blah
blah and all that I manage, coach and run a successful business. Then it hit me, yeah, I am a leaner at times. In summary it says that we are enough, we have our own God given genius within our souls. Our job is to unearth this genius from within and we can never do that by looking to others for guidance. The Divine spark must be fanned into a blaze of the living Fire of your own divinity.
To thine own self be true. Self-Reliance is the key to dwell upon. Listening to your own voice as it speaks to us in ways that are completely understood by us. And to trust in yourself more than you trust in anyone else. Stop looking for others when you already know the answer, to your own question, dream, and desire. I think a lot of times we are just afraid of the answer. That it might be too hard to do so we look to see if there is an easier, faster, less painless way to our dream or desire! I know I can get caught in that
illusion. I have also discovered and learned through experiences good and bad that it is better to face the fear and do it. Because when I am afraid to do something, I should do it. That is
usually my ego wanting to stay comfy and in the safe known area.
Every one of us has within our own soul’s direct communication with the Divine energy, Infinite Understanding. When we lean on other people we are trying to light our path with their light.
In the end of the short chapter it goes on stressing our own strength and oneness with Infinite Mind. It specifically advises: When you have a real thing to do, keep it to yourself. Don’t talk about it to anyone. Just know in your own mind what it is you want and keep still about it. Often, when we have a big idea we go out and blab to everyone about it and next thing you know it has lost all its power. Because people respond by being confused, questioning or even laughing about it and it becomes confused and
then it is manifested as confused.
When you have an idea, keep it to yourself, be focused, get the mental picture of it, make it
perfect in mind, enlarge your thought and pass it over to the creative power that is behind all things, wait and listen and when an impression comes to you, trust it no matter how crazy and follow it with assurance. Never talk about it to anyone. Never talk negative or pay any attention to negativity and you will succeed where others fail.
Blessings all around you.