Although Thanksgiving is a week past, I thought a gentle reminder that the gratitude and thankfullness towards and about everything in our lives stay in the front of our daily practices. This is no new thought but sometimes even I get caught up in the drama of daily life and let it suck me into a moment or two of whinning or complaining and thinking negative thoughts. I know it happens to you too! Instead of being hard on yourself for falling off the gratitude wagon just pull back, take a moment, say a prayer and be thankful for whatever is happening right then.
I can hear you saying now “Oh sure be thankful that I just got a speeding ticket, or my boss, husband, wife whoever just lit into me or is being a pain..” and I say” Yes. Be thankful for that.” Why? Because it is easy to be thankful for things, people, situations that are good but being thankful for not so good things can transform us.
Here is an example: A woman who was very unhappy at her job and with her life in general came to me for a coaching session. At our first meeting she complained about injustices done against her, her bad boss, her crappy pay etc. And while I did listen momentarily, I told her that I can coach you on getting out of this situation but first I would like for you to be thankful for all those ”things” you just told me about.
The look on her face was priceless!! LOL and hen she said “ What? Are you kidding?” ” No, I am not kidding” I said. I explained further; Be thankful that all this is happening because YOU are creating an experience to give your self permissioin to move on in life by creating negativity. At this point, two things happened:
1.) She realized and accepted that she is the only creator in her world and that she can re-create it
2.) She ”got” that by focusing on the negative she kept getting more of it.
Next I asked her what does she want? Get clear on what you want, be thankful for what you have created because good or bad the truth is you are not a victim you are the creator of your world and you can re-create it, again and again.
We worked together for the next 12 weeks, I helped her get clear on what she wanted, coached her step by step towards that goal, and in the end we celebrated together her new job with great pay and good people to work for and with.
What are you thankful for today?
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