Signs and Coincidences
This week marks the 7th year anniversary of buying my home, my first home. I celebrate it every year and my house is included in my daily gratitude list along with family, friends and people, situations, pets and things I am thankful for. But I also celebrate it because it is one of many things that prove to me that the power of prayer, affirmations and visualization do work in manifesting your dreams. And gratitude goes along way too in keeping the good in your life that you have been blessed with.
Like most single women I had been living in an apartment all my adult life. The last apartment I lived in was amazing. It was on a top floor of a building, beautiful views of the city I lived in, a fireplace and was for an apartment quite spacious at 1400 square feet. My life was going very well. I had a great job, plenty of money, good friends and I was in love. You could say my life was on fire! Then one night that all changed when the man I was in love with was killed in an auto accident. My world fell apart and I fell apart. Without going into deep detail of how and why of that part of the story I will keep it at I got to a point where I didn’t care about life anymore and let everything go. I lost the will to live and consequently lost all my financial means. At my sister’s urging and then she and my dad coming to get me and my cats, I moved from that city back to the city wear my family lived. In fact, I moved in with my mom and step-dad.
Living back at home with my parents, in my mid-thirties, broke, depressed and mentally lost was not the life I had planned on having a few years earlier. For the first year I did nothing but mope. I thank my family for putting up with me and being there for me when I was not at my best. But there does come a time when enough is enough. It happened one day when my step father and I were sitting on the patio talking. He said to me “I don’t like seeing you this way. You are not this type of woman. However, if you don’t get a job in the next 30 days I am kicking you out. You can go get a job at the Wal-Mart.” Shocked and mad I stormed off to my bedroom like teenager. Looking back that was the best and most loving thing he could have done for me – Tough love. I was mad about him telling me he was going to kick me out of their home and madder that he suggested I go work at Wal-Mart! Being a successful retailer from the world of high fashion and luxury, I thought to myself, how dare he suggest that I work at Wal-Mart. Does he not know who I am? The truth was I forgot who I was. His comment lit a fire in me that had been dead for quite some time.
I thank my step father for that comment because if he hadn’t said that I don’t know what would have happened? I do know that he would have stayed true to his word and I would have been living in my car! My birthday weekend was approaching and my dad gave me a plane ticket to visit an out of town friend. I considered moving to the state my friend lived in and day dreamed about a brand new start in that city. But then I had the nudge that the place for me was where I was living now. Just not with my parents. When I got back to my parents I had a new attitude and new vision for my life. First thing to do is get a job and no not at Wal-Mart. (No Offense to Wal-Mart I shop there weekly).
Once back at my parents I made a list of where I wanted to work. The type of store I wanted to run. It had to be luxury clothing, luxury brand, financially solid company, good people and good pay. I got very detailed about it. I visualized myself being at work, how I felt, what I wore etc. One day while searching online I saw an ad for a store manager for a most fabulous luxury brand and I immediately applied. I was so excited about this company. Long story short, I had the job within a week of applying for it.
I was on my way! After I got my job I then knew I was ready to move out on my own. I had a new love in my life too, a puppy and he was going to get really big and needed a yard. An apartment was not what I wanted. I wanted my own home. All odds were against me but I knew it was time to get my own house. When I get a feeling deep down in my gut and a knowing of certainty about an idea or thing in my heart then to me that is God speaking to me. It’s always been that way for me, how I know God is telling me something and that no matter what if I just keep my faith in Him/Her it will come to pass.
My dream House:
I made a list of all the things I wanted in my dream house. At first it was so grand and big and there is nothing wrong with that but I realized I didn’t really want all that yet. Besides, I knew that I was not mentally prepared to manifest a huge mansion at this point. It is important to know your limits so that you set yourself up for success and not failure when visualizing. If you can visualize something grand but can’t accept it as true then it will not happen for you no matter how much you see it. You have got to see it, taste it, feel it, hear it and touch it in your mind. So here is the list that I made for my house:
1.) 3 bedrooms and 2 baths
3.) Big fenced in backyard
4.) Two car garage
5.) High ceilings
6.) Nice neighbors with no kids
7.) A patio
8.) Safe neighborhood
9.) At least 1500 square feet
10.) Sprinkler system
I visualized this house every moment I had but mainly before I went to bed. I would spend at least an hour visualizing my home and me living in it. I used affirmations and I prayed to be guided to this home. I also read two books mainly that inspired me and helped me with affirmations; The Power Of Your Sub-Conscious Mind by Dr. Joseph Murphy and Your Word Is Your Wand By Florence Scovel Shinn. I highly recommend both of these books in creating and manifesting anything you desire.
Searching for my home:
When we had time my mom would go with me and we would drive all around looking at homes. It helped that my mom at the time was a real estate agent and we could look all over. She helped a lot. I found a really cute house near my parents and it almost met all the criteria. That one did not work out for me. The search continued for about 2 months.
One Sunday afternoon my mom took me to a brand new community that she had previewed with her office mates earlier. We drove up to it and looked around. There I found another home. It was a darling little home and brand new. It was there that I decided that I want a brand new home not a pre-owned home! I wanted a home of only my energy and my cooties! I almost purchased that little home but decided that the drive from it to my store was much too long – at least an hour each way. So on the way back we stopped at another new community and went in and asked the agent if they had any inventory homes available. He was with another customer at the time but said yes and directed us to the house.
This IS the one:
We drove up to the house and it was so cute, brick, new landscaping, cream colored trim and door and brand new. Mom and I walked inside and I felt from that moment that I was home. We looked around and I walked to the back master bedroom and I looked out the big window and in the yard next door the neighbor lady had the most beautiful blooming roses. A side note here: Roses are my personal sign that I ask for from my angels and or God for confirmation on decisions or direction. When I saw those roses, the only roses I saw on all the visits to all different homes I looked at combined with the positive feeling from walking in the door to this house I knew this was the one. This is my house.
My mom could tell she looked at me in the living room and said “I can see on your face this is the one isn’t it?” I said yes, I think it is. It has everything on the list I mentioned above. I asked my mom to wait outside for a moment as I always did so that I could feel the energy and talk to the house alone. It only took a few moments before I emerged from the house because it told me already that it belonged to me.
Next was purchasing the house. I have never purchased a house before and was told that it was a big difficult process. I guess that is and isn’t true but I do know that when God promises you something it will come to pass. I was turned down for the loan three times. I had only had a new job for 3 month’s; I didn’t have much credit – not bad credit just no credit or record of long payment. I had paid my car off 6 years before and didn’t have any credit cards etc. But I didn’t let that bother me, I kept my focus on seeing it and believing it was my home. The final time I was turned down I broke down and went outside and sat on the bench on the side of my parent’s home. I said “God, I don’t know what else to do? If this house is really mine then I give it over to you to give to me”. About 15 minutes later, my mom came out and sat down next to me. After telling me some words of comfort she hugged me and the she said, “Well, I have one other mortgage loan person we can call that I know of do you want me to call him?” I said “Well, ok but if it doesn’t work out with this person then the house is not meant for me”.
“D” the person who was a mortgage loan officer called me. I sent him all my information and while talking to this person they told me that they will get this done. I said ok. I thought from previous experience that I would have to wait another 2 or 3 weeks for an approval, however, he called back within a few days – I was approved! Thank you, Thank you, Thank you God. On November 18 with my mom by my side we drove to the title company and I signed my papers and got the key to my house. Mom and I went out for a celebration dinner and we drove up to my house to say hello to MY new home! I moved into my home that weekend and have been here now for seven years.
I would like to add one other amazing part to this story: The sales realtor for my home was very patient and kind man. But the house was an inventory home belonging to the builder who developed the community which means it is there to sell. And while I worked hard to get approved for the loan the time it took waiting for approval made the home available for someone else to buy. Gene (the realtor) and I would talk every few days and after I got my home he told me that this home really was meant for me because not once in all the weeks of Monday morning sales meetings did his boss pressure him about this particular house being sold. In fact, he told me that his boss never mentioned the house. His boss mentioned all the other inventory homes for sale but not this house. He said he was always bracing himself for his boss to pressure him about selling it and not waiting on me too long, but his boss never brought it up.
After a year of living at my home I was thinking of Gene and how kind he was and what a big part he played in me getting the home and wanted to call and say hello. I called the home office of the builder figuring he had been moved to another community. But no one knew who he was that I talk to in the office. Then my mother who was at a realtor function met someone who also knew Gene and was told that Gene had passed away a few months earlier. I like to think of Gene as a little angel that helped things move along and I am forever grateful to him too in playing a part in getting my home.
Everyday, I am thankful for my home. I show it my gratitude by taking care of it, enjoying it, appreciating it, decorating it and filling it full of love everyday. You can laugh if you want I don’t care but I usually hug and give it a kiss too! I wrap my arms around the column between the living room and dining room and hold tight and visualize love going all through it. I thank it for warming me in the winter, cooling me in the summer and protecting me and my family and for saying “Welcome Home!” to me everyday.
Calling For A Sign:
Most recently, I have called on a sign to help me make a very hard decision of knowing when to “put to sleep” a dearly beloved pet.
My cat Chloe and I have been together since she picked me out at the shelter 16 years ago. She was the third addition to my cat family, of two boy cats who I had already been adopted by 5 years before. Since our journey together she has moved with me 3 times, seen her two “brother” cats pass on to the rainbow bridge and has gracefully loved my dog Pierre since he was introduced to her 7 years ago and has seen me in every emotional state possible! A few weeks ago, I noticed she was not up to par. I took her in for her annual and grooming and when I picked her up that day she seemed to have a stuffy nose. For the next 10 days she did not eat or drink and lost 6 pounds. Basically, I was feeding her and giving her water with a syringe every hour. She became severely dehydrated and with one of my other cats I had been through this before and the outlook did not look good for her. I called the vet and we discussed her various problems and her quality of life. I made the appointment for Friday.
That night, I prayed and wrote a letter to God then sat down next to her and told her and the universe: “Listen, I need a sign from you that if it is time for you to go on…if you are ready to go then nothing will change between now and tomorrow. However, if you are not ready to go I request the sign that you get up and eat and drink on your own.”
Four hours later, I was in the kitchen cooking and one of the ingredients I was using was tuna. After opening the can, lo’ and behold here she is in the kitchen meowing and rubbing against me. I picked her up and noticed her nose was completely cleared and she was breathing fine. I put some of the tuna in her bowl and she ate it all, then I opened another can of her food and she ate it all, she then drank from her water dish. Today, one week later, she is still eating and drinking on her own and up and about. It was not time, yet. I thanked the Universe and God for the sign. We are taking it one day at a time.
I have called on signs from friends and loved ones who have passed on to let me know that they hear me talking to them or that they are around. I have called on signs about jobs to take or not take or how to deal with situations. I have called on signs or symbols for knowing which direction I should go in driving or in life!
Why don’t you try calling for a sign to help you? It can be fun and it doesn’t have to be anything major if you are just starting out. Ask your question and see where the answer comes from. Be wise to your intuition or inner voice and what it is telling you.
But, you don’t always have to call on a sign or symbol to receive one you just need to be aware of them and or coincidences, premonitions, or synchronicities and then figure out what that means for you. Here is another recent example from my own situation:
This past weekend I went to meet some friends for a coffee at a book store. I happen to put on a pendant that was a Christmas gift from parents of a former friend. This friend and I had been very good friends for years but have not spoken now for three years. Nevertheless, I still cherish the memories of our friendship and move forward and love the pendant and still wear it. This pendant is made of crystal glass and is substantial in size. And with no seeming cause, I was not pulling on it or playing with it…just standing there when it slipped from the chain and fell to the floor smashing in a million tiny pieces. My inner knowing immediately went off that this was a symbol or sign of something in my life that is going on. After a day or so of contemplation, I have come to the conclusion that it is a symbol for a break through about to happen in my life and that when things are shattered particularly glass, an illusion is broken and I can see my life more clearly. In addition, perhaps pertaining to the former friendship that the piece represented, it is completely shattered and I had made the decision (months ago) that our friendship was one that was completed. I had forgiven her and moved on and hope the best for her wherever she is now.
After death communications:
I have loved and lost to death many friends and family and I have my own special symbols and signs that I request from them when I am saying hello or needed help with grieving to know they are ok and that they hear me or for them to let me know they are near. Sometimes a sign from them comes in a dream or they visit me in the dream or during the day. With some it is a particular song, some a flower or color or movie …. It something that is personal that connected me and that person while they were here.
There are so many ways our life and Spirit speaks to us if we would just open up and listen and pay attention. We really do have all the help we need and we are not alone.
I recommend highly my favorite book The Secret Language of Signs from healer Denise Linn click here for link to book: The Secret Language of Signs
As I always say, remember we are the only one’s that can truly know what things mean to us and I only offer to help you understand and coach you through the process of discovering your souls messages for you.
Pleas feel free to comment or ask me any questions that you may have pertaining to the subject manner of the site – dreams, signs, spirit communication, or metaphysical topics.
It is not only in our dreams that we receive messages from our soul. Everyday of our lives, in each moment the universe, Spirit or God is speaking to us in dreams, signs, symbols, coincidences and synchronicities too. At night when we go to sleep you can ask for a dream to clarify a situation, inspire you or help you make an important decision. We can apply the same technique in our waking time to by asking the universe for a sign or symbol that will help us make a right choice, ease our minds or help us with conditions in our life. They are messages that can pertain to your current life, your future life or something you really need to know.
Where do Signs come from?
Signs come from cultures, religions, secret societies, your heritage and the collective unconscious of the human race. I cannot tell you all the history and information here in this article regarding signs and symbols, it is much too much for here and now in my article. I can tell you if you have seen the movies, The DaVinci Code or Angels and Demons that Tom Hanks plays the character role of Robert Langdon who studies signs and is a professor of sort on signs and symbols. Basically, signs serve as messengers of important information about your current life or future or can be reflections of what is going on with you in your life and inside of you. I believe that signs are from all mentioned above and God, Spirit or the Universe – Whatever you feel comfortable calling The ALL That Is. And I am happy to share with you my experiences and knowledge gleaned from signs in my life.
How do signs work?
I have called on signs or symbols for many years, even though I don’t recall when and where I first used one. I know that I have always known that even little things, coincidences mean something more than first thought to mean. Have you ever been in a hurry and when you are trying to leave your house or office the phone rings, then you drop your briefcase and papers go flying, then you cannot find your keys and the darn situation just keeps going on and on and you are thinking to yourself “damn I just want to go what is the deal here?!” Then just as you take a moment, take a deep breath, your intuition tells you to just wait. Just then call comes in that was your friend that you were rushing out the door to meet telling you they are canceling or maybe the elevator got stuck and had you been on it you would have been stuck in it too. This is a messenger sign letting you know that hey wait a minute your timing is off…just wait.
Signs also reflect our inner world, acknowledged or not and they reflect our beliefs. This where the like attracts like thing comes into play too. If you are person who thinks all wealthy people are crooks then you will only see and hear stories and experience wealthy people who are crooks. Even if you are conscious of thinking no not all wealthy people are crooks your inner core belief still radiates out that energy or all rich people are crooks and that is what you attract. You must deal with the belief at the core subconscious level in order to eradicate it and change it for the better for you to attract better. If you really want to know what you truly feel and believe look around your life and see who and what is in it and what its reflecting to you.
How do signs appear in your life?
As mentioned above, it can be something not going along as you like it, being delayed obviously! If you ask the universe for a sign here are a few ways that the sign can appear to you:
Dreams: These dream signs can be coming from Spirit and or both your higher self pay attention to the most outstanding symbol, sign, word, phrase, emotion or song from a dream and see how it plays out in your waking life to understand it’s message.
Conversations: Pay attention to conversations, “slips of the tongue”, or over heard conversations (there is a reason they are having the conversation for you to be able to hear it.) Practice more on truly listening and not thinking about what you are going to say when you are in a conversation in order to hear messages for you. Be in the moment.
Random thoughts: Pay attention to fleeting seemingly random thoughts that pass through your mind while you are doing something or being “normal
Songs/Music: Have you ever started singing a song or humming a tune or I personally wake up almost every morning with some random song in my head. What are the words or title it could be a message for you.
Radio, Television and Movies: Words, scenes, commentary can all be a conveyance for a message to get to you.
Books, magazines, billboards, printed words: A word or phrase will jump out at you from the page. Sometimes, for a quick reading or answer to a question I will grab a book and sit with it for a few minutes quiet my mind and then ask a question and open the book and see what the first word or sentence to jump out at me says. Many times, it is just what I need to know.
People: People (known and unknown) can be put on your path to cross with you and give you the answer you need. If you think of a particular person that usually means to call them or see them that they have a message for you. Every single person is meant to see you or cross paths and you them otherwise we would not see them. Just think, you could be carrying a message for them too. It’s not always about us!
These are just a few ways signs are present in our lives or that we can call on signs and look for their message to come from. Part II to this article in the following post.
As I always say, remember we are the only one’s that can truly know what things mean to us. I only offer to help you to understand and coach you through the process of discovering the meaning of your soul messages for you.
I welcome your comments and or questions and I am glad to be of help with dreams, signs, spirit communication or metaphysical related questions.