Are you being bothered by someone or some situation that is causing you to hook into negativity? Being involved with people and situations where we are not experiencing peace, harmony and happiness is a good sign that we have again created a situation that is less than what we are capable of creating. Take note and responsibility and realize that since you created/attracted that to you either consciously or subconsciously through your OWN thoughts and feelings you can change recreate to a better situation. When you first resolve your own frustrations then life situations are more easily solved. Start with your feelings and thoughts about others and improve/change to better, congenial thoughts and the people in your world either start responding more haromoniously or they will move out of your life completely. They won’t be attracted to you anymore. Remember whatever and whoever you fight and criticize and resist stays attached to us through these negative emotions. As my grandmother always says “just bless them honey and move on!” and it works because I have tried it and still use it whenever I get that person or situation in my life for my lesson of “bless and release”!
Although Thanksgiving is a week past, I thought a gentle reminder that the gratitude and thankfullness towards and about everything in our lives stay in the front of our daily practices. This is no new thought but sometimes even I get caught up in the drama of daily life and let it suck me into a moment or two of whinning or complaining and thinking negative thoughts. I know it happens to you too! Instead of being hard on yourself for falling off the gratitude wagon just pull back, take a moment, say a prayer and be thankful for whatever is happening right then.
I can hear you saying now “Oh sure be thankful that I just got a speeding ticket, or my boss, husband, wife whoever just lit into me or is being a pain..” and I say” Yes. Be thankful for that.” Why? Because it is easy to be thankful for things, people, situations that are good but being thankful for not so good things can transform us.
Here is an example: A woman who was very unhappy at her job and with her life in general came to me for a coaching session. At our first meeting she complained about injustices done against her, her bad boss, her crappy pay etc. And while I did listen momentarily, I told her that I can coach you on getting out of this situation but first I would like for you to be thankful for all those ”things” you just told me about.
The look on her face was priceless!! LOL and hen she said “ What? Are you kidding?” ” No, I am not kidding” I said. I explained further; Be thankful that all this is happening because YOU are creating an experience to give your self permissioin to move on in life by creating negativity. At this point, two things happened:
1.) She realized and accepted that she is the only creator in her world and that she can re-create it
2.) She ”got” that by focusing on the negative she kept getting more of it.
Next I asked her what does she want? Get clear on what you want, be thankful for what you have created because good or bad the truth is you are not a victim you are the creator of your world and you can re-create it, again and again.
We worked together for the next 12 weeks, I helped her get clear on what she wanted, coached her step by step towards that goal, and in the end we celebrated together her new job with great pay and good people to work for and with.
What are you thankful for today?
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Happy Summer Solstice 2012!
Did you know that this night is a wonderful night to have dreams of prophecy? Indeed it is true! Here are two ideas that are easy and fun. And even if you don’t put anything under your pillow your dreams on this night will be more vivid and lucid than “normal” nights.
1.) Pick 9 flowers, clean them up and place them in a little bag to place under your pillow before sleeping. Then as you lie down to sleep, clear your mind, and repeat in your head “thank you” and open your mind and heart to love as you drift off to sleep.
2.) Place mistletoe under your pillow and clear your mind and heart as you drift off to sleep.